Adoption has been on my mind a lot lately, not questioning my decision but questioning why the world has such a negative view on such a challenging and heartbreaking decision. Adoption, is not for every woman experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, lets put that out there first and I know each and every birth mother makes the decision for a different reason. No matter the reason for the decision, it came from her heart and she lover that baby more than anything and she knew her baby would be happier and better taken care of with a stable, healthy family. Adoption is in no way "the easy way out" It is a heart wrenching decision. I have not only placed my child into another mothers arms, but I have, also seen the experience from an outside perspective. It is painful and few people will ever understand it. Labeling a birth mother as "one who does not love her baby" or "someone refusing to take responsibility for their actions" or "a girl who just doesn't want to be a mother" couldn't be further from the truth. Adoption is not a "shameful" decision. It is selfless love. Birth mothers take a step back away from themselves and their needs and instead look at the needs of their unborn child, even if that means breaking their own hearts for the right, best and true needs of the child. It is time to put away the stereotype and honor these strong women. Happy Birth Mothers Day!
